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Healing Fear of Romantic Partnership
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Healing Fear of Romantic Partnership
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Valencia Esters
Oct 09, 2021
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Healing Fear of Romantic Partnership
In Astro Baddie ✨
Valencia Esters
Oct 09, 2021
Hey there! I'm not the best at cheering anyone up but I think I'm honest and give practical opinions. I have this same fears (I'm pretty sure my husband drowned me in one of my past lives) and the thing is that these fears are very valid and are supported by the statistics that domestic abuse/homicides are responsible for 38% of women's (and I'm truly assuming, I'm sorry if I'm incorrect in my assumption of your gender identity) deaths in the US. We see tv shows and testemonies on socials ALL of the time from women who have survived their relationships and ended up with next to nothin. Hell my ass was raised in a family where the women assume the posistion as the "weaker" partner while simultaneously holding their husbands' lives up and together; something not very unfamiliar to most. So your fears and feelings are more than valid, they're yours and you should know it's not illogical nor irrational to think them. I hope you find peace in that alone. - But on the flip side as far as solutions, I feel like it's personal to who you are. I'd been thinking all night about why come when I daydream about what's supposed to be a cute moment, I end up gettin betrayed or rejected and realized these are feelings I felt growing up and are the reason I don't talk to my parents now. Then I started watching Steven Universe. It was the episode when he was helping Garnet create alternate futures and she broke down about being afraid that she couldn't see them clearly. Anyway, Steven said "Why not instead of worrying about what could happen, we focus on what we want to happen" and that got me to thinking. I'm not even preparing myself for this supposed heartbreak if I plan to go into it guarded anyway. And If you make a habit of being around people you don't trust and like for who they are, you will make it almost impossible to be in a healthy, happy, healing realtionship regardless. I don't think we think of the company we keep as an exfension of our self care and that can distort the reality we create in our manifestations by allowing us to factor in these miserable relationships as a norm. Create the relationsips you want in the present by letting go of people you don't actually like nor trust, and allow yourself to get familiar with the baseline feelings of complete comfort and safety with people. Like yourself. Care for yourself. Take time to validate your own feelings. We want happiness and reciprocity? Let's create that so we can have that. A partner who is emotionally stable and cares for our emotions? Let's create that by doing that. Therapy and Mystic Healing audios can tag team to find the roots. And you can do the upkeep by making practical decisions in order to have that life you want. Trust yourself.
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